Disconnecting from feeling alone
I just finished working a trade show for Logicube in Las Vegas. This was my 5th trip to Las Vegas this year, and if you’ve spent time around me or talked to me about Las Vegas you know how much I’m coming to dislike it. It’s not anything in particular, it’s just that I’m always there in high intensity work situations, so it’s never relaxing to me.
Anyways, on to the point of this post. I’ve been spending a lot of time thinking about the role that technology plays in my life and the life of my family. Last week Ariana (our 3 year-old) was extremely sick and spent a lot of time with me watching movies or playing games on my iPad. All the while I was glued to my phone or laptop working on emails for work and just half listening to her or to my wife or our other daughter, Zoe. In all that time I wasn’t fully present with anyone.
While on the flight back from Las Vegas there was an article about TED. In the article, buried way down, was a discussion of Sherry Turkle’s talk, “Connected, but alone.” In the talk she discusses how our devices have made us more isolated and how we’re now filtering. We’re saying to those who we love, “I only want to hear what I want to hear, not what you have to share, even the boring parts.”
I’m done with it. I’ve had enough of not being present. It’s making me frustrated, it’s making me unhappy, and I feel more disconnected than ever.
If you’ve spent time around me you know how I love my iPhone, and don’t worry- I’m keeping it. But I’m changing how and when I use it. It will be with me when I’m working (it’s my primary phone number after all), and it will be with me when I travel for work. But today I bought a new phone. It’s a flip phone. It doesn’t have the ability to read emails. It can make and receive calls and text messages. That’s it.
That’s my emergency phone. It will be with me at all times. If you need to reach me try my normal cell first, but if it's an emergency call this new phone and I'll stop whatever I am doing to answer.
To those who I am closest to, you’re going to get this number (within about a day or so) in an email along with some other comments about my struggle with this. This is not an easy decision, nor will it be easy to maintain this line, but it’s important for myself, my family and for those who I love.
People are more important than technology and I want to show it. This is one of my ways.
